Big Feelings and Bright Beginnings: Helping Children with Their First Day of School
The first day of school is a big milestone—whether it’s your child’s very first day ever, or just the first day of a brand-new grade. Along with new backpacks, lunchboxes, and routines, children often carry something else: big emotions. Excitement, nervousness, curiosity, fear, and even sadness can swirl together in ways that are tough for young ones to explain.
As families, we can support our children through this transition by helping them understand their feelings, building excitement around learning, and—of course—turning to the power of books to guide those important conversations.
Why the First Day Feels So Big
For young children, starting school often means separating from home and caregivers for the first time. For older children, it might mean a new teacher, classmates, or a bigger workload. It’s perfectly natural for kids to feel unsure about these changes.
Understanding their emotions—and naming them—is the first step toward helping them manage those feelings. Picture books, read-aloud, and family discussions are fantastic tools for doing just that.
Helping Preschool and Kindergarten-Age Children
At this age, children may not have the words to explain how they feel. Visual stories and gentle reassurances go a long way. Establish routines before school starts—like reading a story together every night or practicing the morning routine—to help things feel more predictable.
Books to Read Together:
The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
This classic tells the story of a little raccoon nervous about going to school. His mother shares a sweet secret for feeling her love all day long.
Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney
Llama’s first day of preschool is full of worry and longing for Mama. A relatable, rhyming story that helps normalize separation anxiety.
First Day Jitters by Julie Danneberg
A funny twist: the person with the jitters is the teacher! It’s a reassuring reminder that everyone feels nervous sometimes.
Supporting Elementary-Age Children
As children grow, they may be more aware of social dynamics or academic expectations. Encourage them to share their worries—whether it’s about making friends, a tricky subject, or even getting lost in the building.
Talk through potential situations and help them think through solutions. Empowering them with confidence and perspective makes a big difference.
Books for School-Age Readers:
Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes
Wemberly is a little mouse who worries—a lot. A comforting book that helps children know they’re not alone in their anxious feelings.
All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold
A colorful, inclusive book celebrating the diverse, supportive communities that schools can be.
The Day You Begin by Jacqueline Woodson
For kids feeling different or unsure, this beautifully written book is a celebration of finding your place.
Family Tips for Soothing First Day:
Practice together: Visit the school, meet the teacher if possible, and do a trial run of the morning routine.
Create a goodbye ritual: A special phrase, hug, or handshake can help ease transitions.
Make time to listen: After school, keep things open-ended: “What made you smile today?” or “Was anything tricky?”
Be patient: The adjustment period can take days or weeks. Expect ups and downs—and celebrate small victories.
The first day of school is the start of so many new adventures. While big emotions are a natural part of that transition, they’re also an opportunity for connection, empathy, and growth. With stories in hand and love in our hearts, we can help children feel brave, supported, and ready to take their first steps into a brand-new year.
Happy First Day of School!
