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The first day of school is a big milestone—whether it’s your child’s very first day ever, or just the first day of a brand-new grade. Along with new backpacks, lunchboxes, and routines, children often carry something else: big emotions. Excitement, nervousness, curiosity, fear, and even sadness can swirl together in ways that are tough for young ones to explain.
As families, we can support our children through this transition by helping them understand their feelings, building excitement around learning, and—of course—turning to the power of books to guide those important conversations.
Why the First Day Feels So Big
For young children, starting school often means separating from home and caregivers for the first time. For older children, it might mean a new teacher, classmates, or a bigger workload. It’s perfectly natural for kids to feel unsure about these changes.
Understanding their emotions—and naming them—is the first step toward helping them manage those feelings. Picture books, read-aloud, and family discussions are fantastic tools for doing just that.
Helping Preschool and Kindergarten-Age Children
At this age, children may not have the words to explain how they feel. Visual stories and gentle reassurances go a long way. Establish routines before school starts—like reading a story together every night or practicing the morning routine—to help things feel more predictable.
Books to Read Together:
The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
This classic tells the story of a little raccoon nervous about going to school. His mother shares a sweet secret for feeling her love all day long.
Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney
Llama’s first day of preschool is full of worry and longing for Mama. A relatable, rhyming story that helps normalize separation anxiety.
First Day Jitters by Julie Danneberg
A funny twist: the person with the jitters is the teacher! It’s a reassuring reminder that everyone feels nervous sometimes.
Supporting Elementary-Age Children
As children grow, they may be more aware of social dynamics or academic expectations. Encourage them to share their worries—whether it’s about making friends, a tricky subject, or even getting lost in the building.
Talk through potential situations and help them think through solutions. Empowering them with confidence and perspective makes a big difference.
Books for School-Age Readers:
Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes
Wemberly is a little mouse who worries—a lot. A comforting book that helps children know they’re not alone in their anxious feelings.
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All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold
A colorful, inclusive book celebrating the diverse, supportive communities that schools can be.
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The Day You Begin by Jacqueline Woodson
For kids feeling different or unsure, this beautifully written book is a celebration of finding your place.
Family Tips for Soothing First Day:
Practice together: Visit the school, meet the teacher if possible, and do a trial run of the morning routine.
Create a goodbye ritual: A special phrase, hug, or handshake can help ease transitions.
Make time to listen: After school, keep things open-ended: “What made you smile today?” or “Was anything tricky?”
Be patient: The adjustment period can take days or weeks. Expect ups and downs—and celebrate small victories.
The first day of school is the start of so many new adventures. While big emotions are a natural part of that transition, they’re also an opportunity for connection, empathy, and growth. With stories in hand and love in our hearts, we can help children feel brave, supported, and ready to take their first steps into a brand-new year.
Como familias, podemos acompañar a nuestros hijos en esta transición ayudándolos a reconocer lo que sienten, despertando el entusiasmo por aprender y, por supuesto, usando el poder de los libros para guiar esas conversaciones tan importantes.
Para los niños pequeños, comenzar la escuela muchas veces significa separarse por primera vez de casa y de sus cuidadores. Para los niños más grandes, puede significar tener un maestro nuevo, hacer amigos nuevos o enfrentarse a más tareas escolares. Es totalmente normal que sientan dudas o nervios ante estos cambios.
Ayudarlos a entender lo que sienten—y ponerle nombre a esas emociones—es el primer paso para que puedan manejarlas. Los libros ilustrados, las lecturas en voz alta y las charlas en familia son herramientas muy útiles para eso.
Apoyando a niños en edad preescolar y kindergarten
A esta edad, muchos niños aún no tienen las palabras para decir cómo se sienten. Las historias con imágenes y las palabras suaves de tranquilidad ayudan mucho. Antes de que comience la escuela, podemos establecer rutinas—como leer juntos cada noche o practicar la rutina de la mañana—para que el cambio sea más fácil.
Libros para leer en familia:
La mano que besa (The Kissing Hand) de Audrey Penn
Este libro clásico cuenta la historia de un pequeño mapache que se siente nervioso por ir a la escuela. Su mamá le comparte un tierno secreto para sentir su amor durante todo el dĂa.
Llama Llama Misses Mama de Anna Dewdney
El primer dĂa de preescolar de Llama está lleno de preocupaciĂłn y de extrañar a su mamá. Una historia rimada y tierna que ayuda a normalizar la ansiedad por separaciĂłn.
First Day Jitters de Julie Danneberg
Un giro divertido: ¡quien tiene nervios no es un estudiante, sino la maestra! Un recordatorio simpático de que todos sentimos nervios alguna vez.
Apoyando a niños en edad escolar (primaria)
Cuando los niños crecen, suelen darse más cuenta de las relaciones sociales y de lo que se espera de ellos en la escuela. AnĂmalos a compartir sus preocupaciones—ya sea por hacer amigos, por alguna materia difĂcil o por temor a perderse en la escuela.
Hablen sobre lo que podrĂa pasar y piensen juntos en soluciones. Ayudarlos a sentirse seguros y capaces marca una gran diferencia.
Libros para lectores en edad escolar:
Wemberly Worried de Kevin Henkes
Wemberly es una pequeña ratoncita que se preocupa… mucho. Un libro que consuela y que ayuda a los niños a entender que no están solos en sus emociones.
All Are Welcome de Alexandra Penfold
Un libro colorido e inclusivo que celebra comunidades escolares diversas y llenas de apoyo.
The Day You Begin de Jacqueline Woodson
Para los niños que se sienten diferentes o inseguros, esta historia bellamente escrita celebra encontrar nuestro lugar en el mundo. Consejos familiares para calmar los nervios del primer dĂa
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